When we are open to possibilities, amazing things can unfold.
When the Mean Girl who lives in our head gets really loud and extra vicious, and we just want her to stfu, finding patience and compassion for her can be beyond challenging and yet it is vital for our healing and growth (and helping her quiet down).
Learning to trust ourselves helps us in learning to trust other people.
Sometimes we need a little more concrete information in order to understand better.
Clarity goes hand in hand with ambiguity. Paradox is always the way of the universe.
We can find ourselves unfairly projecting our anger and disappointment at one person onto another. When we are able to own this, hold ourselves accountable, and make amends, intimacy and trust can grow.
Often we don’t know until we try.
Realizing we want something more/different opens the door for the anxiety that comes with doing things in a new and different way.
People who lie about something as mundane as their age or height are likely to be dishonest about more important things.
It is true we are all unique and special and basically the same, that we are both irreplaceable and completely replaceable. All things can be true at once.
Our relationships should add to our sense fulfillment in our lives. No one relationship should be responsible for all our nourishment and fulfillment.
Respecting another’s autonomy asks us to also respect our own.
All the rules and “norms” of society are pretty much completely made up and serve to benefit the minority of the ruling class. Remember this.
It should be neither radical nor controversial to say and believe all humans, and I mean ALL humans, have a right to safe shelter/housing, nontoxic food and water, and medical care.
Finding our way back to lost or exiled parts of ourselves is an ever evolving process.
Most of us have ancestors who were oppressed AND ancestors who were oppressors (some ancestors were both simultaneously or consecutively or all of the above). Healing our ancestral trauma and wounds requires us to face the harm done by those who came before us, not only the harm done to them.
Sometimes we just have to be relieved we got out in time and aren’t a part of the chaos.
Our hearts can break for the pain someone is experiencing and know it is not our place to do anything to change it.
Some people don’t want to learn their karmic lessons, don’t want to heal or grow, refuse to hold themselves accountable for harm caused. It may make us sad, and we need to accept not everyone in on a path to (r)evolution (regardless of what they may claim) and continue on our way.
I am and always will be a “girls’ girl.” Anytime a cis man talks about his “crazy ex” my first question is “What did you do to make her “crazy”?” That usually has them going quiet and leaving me alone and good, it should.
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