The unfolding

Or slowing down and allowing

For those of us with complex trauma and disorganized attachment, relationships of any kind can be challenging. All trauma has a relational aspect to it, whether it be abuse or neglect from those around the events themselves and because of this when we live with unprocessed trauma our nervous systems tell us to isolate, that people are dangerous, that we are better off on our own. Our nervous systems do this to protect us, because people hurt us in the past and can’t be trusted.

While our nervous system is trying to protect us, we are also fundamentally wired to be in relationship. Humans as a species only evolved and survived because we lived in community. From an evolutionary stand point, we need each other to stay alive. So while one part of us is doing it’s best to protect us from other people, another part of us longs for, and makes attempts at, connection, relationship, community.

If we look at this from an attachment theory perspective, we could say this plays out as the “…