SS :: Shadow Dance Part 3

The final dance lesson is about self-compassion. As I have stated over and over in our time together, shame relies on our self-loathing and encourages us to remain isolated and hidden. Part of this isolation is being very judgmental of others (which really is us projecting our own judgement of our Self onto others).

I invite you to notice when you are irritated or annoyed by another person, when you are triggered into anger or frustration by another, to take a step back, become curious and wonder why exactly you are having such a strong reaction to whatever the thing is.

For example I used to go through the bloody roof at my ex-husband because he would leave his clothes on the floor on his side of the bed. I mean like I was furious. Far beyond what would be a "normal" or even remotely healthy reaction to a person leaving their darn dirty clothes on the side of the bed.

When I was able to get through the layers though (and there were several layers) the bottom line was my own desperate ne…