Our attachment styles

When we are in relationship with another person long enough, regardless of the kind of relationship, we will see the ways their own attachment wounds show up and how they deal with overwhelming emotions and situations.

For those with an anxious attachment style, these situations are opportunities to look at the ways fear of abandonment has us ignoring boundaries, not giving space, or demanding attention and conversation before the other person is ready.

For those with an avoidant attachment style these situations give opportunities to express the need for space, to give a timeline for when the issue can be discussed and look at the ways we shut down and push the other away.

For those of us with a disorganized attachment style we get to explore which aspect (anxious or avoidant or both) is showing up.

For all of this gives us opportunities to find ways to self soothe and see the ways we are projecting and bringing our childhood attachment experiences with our primary caregivers into our ad…