EWR : 13. The ways we distract & isolate

Embodied Writing : Relating, Relationships, & Trauma series

We all distract and isolate.  We distract others from our true Self by not using our voice, by hiding the "bad" parts of our Self, by over-emphasizing the "good".  We distract ourselves from our own emotions, sensations, stories, histories, and truths.    This all leads us, ultimately, to isolation.

We try to fill our loneliness, our emptiness, with things or projects instead of finding ways to truly fill those gaps of connection.  This may help us feel better about ourselves or life in the short term, but they are not long term or lasting "fixes."  This leads us further and further from actual connection.  

We do these things, like retail therapy, constantly starting new projects (but not finishing one), binging on TV, books, social media, because they feel safe.  These distractions, while leading to isolation, do not push us out of our comfort zones into vulnerability, into moving through our fears of rejection, abandonment.  

We can find ourselves in cycles