EWP :: 17. Discomfort around sex

Embodied Writing Pleasure series

Exploring sex and our sexuality can be incredibly uncomfortable.  We are all raised with a lot of stigma around sex, if not within our families of origin, then at the least within our western, oppressive society.  Sex is dirty.  Sex is sinful.  Sex is only for procreation.

This is especially true for those of us who were raised as female.

Letting go of the stigma of sex and sexuality isn't only about sex though.  It's about body acceptance.  It's about confidence and feeling good in our own skin.  It's about curiosity.  And it's about pleasure.  

Letting go of our internalized messaging about sex, our bodies, and pleasure is complex.  We will have moments of confidence and then moments of fear.  Letting go of this messaging will feel weird and replacing it more positive messaging about sex and sexuality will feel inauthentic at first. 

Being in the liminal space, where we are acknowledging, analyzing, and releasing our internalized messages and not yet in the place where we have completel…