EWP :: 07. Our armor against pleasure

Embodied Writing Pleasure series

We all wear masks and cloaks.  Those outer layers that we allow the outer world to see.  The way we present ourselves to new people or in unknown situations.  This is part of how we all interact with the world and it isn't necessarily a "bad" thing.

At least, it isn’t “bad” until we continue wearing these outer layers in our most intimate of relationships... which is where our cloaks and masks actually become armor.

The armor we all wear to one level or another. 

Our armor was forged in our early childhood years as a way to survive.  It could have been forged to protect us from various forms of abuse and or neglect.  It could have been forged to protect us from violence or from a lack of emotional support from our caregivers.  It could have been forged to protect our hyper-sensitivies or neurospiciness. It doesn't matter the specific reasons it was forged, the bottom line is we experienced a deep relational wound (or many) in our early and formative years and we did what we had to to p…