Endings, (ego) deaths, & transformations edition

A Random List o Tings

1. We need to honor the grief of not only final endings and deaths, but also transformations and the endings and mini deaths they bring.

2. We can love someone deeply and be unwilling to be a part of their avoidance of accountability or (self) delusions. In fact I would say if we love someone deeply we absolutely cannot be any part of their avoidance or lies to themselves (or others).

3. I do not need people to be perfect, to see things exactly as I do, nor be at the same place in their healing or life journey as me. I do need people who are willing and able to grow, change, and hold themselves accountable for harm caused.

4. I do not expect nor desire to be the center or top priority in anyone else’s life (I’m the center and top priority of my own). I do expect respect, care, understanding and our relationship to be *A* priority.

5. When our younger parts want something that is no longer possible, holding space for and sitting with their rage, disappointment, and grief is the most healing and loving th…