Containers, attachment, and growth

aka when we feel safeness we can expand beyond our imagination

Secure attachment comes from having a sense of safeness within our relationships and within ourselves. Becoming securely attached involves being able to set and maintain boundaries, respecting the boundaries of others, and being able to have open and honest communication (with both ourselves and others). When we are securely attached, we more easily move with the flow of change, have a more visceral acceptance that nothing is permanent (even when we want it to be), and we are able to be more fully in our Core Self and not compromise who we are or our values in order to be loved or in relationship.

Secure attachment in many ways is based on the embodied idea that we know, no matter what may happen, we will be okay, that we will live through whatever hardships or difficulties life may throw at us. It is an embodied understanding that life and relationships have their own ebbs and flows, their own rhythms, and the more we can move with, instead of against, this flow, the more present w…