Che sera, sera (what will be, will be)

Releasing control and allowing the unfolding

At heart I’m a hopeless romantic.

There is a part of me that wants to believe in destiny and fate and soulmates.

My logic brain however squashes that all.

There is a part of me who wants the happy ending, the happily ever after, the promises of forever and ever.

My disorganized attachment however feels trapped and caged by the idea of “forever” so once I start to feel close with someone or develop Big Feels I seem to unconsciously find a way to end things. Often dramatically.

And.

I am learning from experience and my ancestors, that more times than not, che sera, sera : what will be, will be.

This doesn’t alleviate any of us of responsibility for our actions or inactions. This doesn’t mean we don’t have to put in the work of our own healing. It doesn’t mean we take whatever comes our way just because it came our way.

And.

Most things in life can’t be controlled or forced. Relationships unfold in their own time. Work progresses at its own pace. Life happens at the rate and intensity it happens.

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