Breaking patterns and cycles
Breaking harmful patterns and cycles is not easy. It requires us to literally rewire our brain. This doesn't happen by simply willing it to be so. We actually need to do the work, that is messy and vulnerable and feels strange and may even feel counterintuitive.
It asks us to be brave. And curious. And to trust.
None of which comes easy when living with complex trauma.
It means putting down our protective armor. Not all at once. But bit by bit, piece by piece.
It means softening. Towards others. Mostly towards ourselves.
It means learning to ask for what we want. It means being able to accept both yeses and noes
It means allowing ourselves to feel All The Feelings. While also not allowing them to overwhelm us.
It means embracing our humanity. With compassion. With love. With a want to learn and do different without shaming ourselves.
It means learning to relate in new and different ways. From new and different perspectives. With broken open hearts.
None of this is easy. It can be rather terrifying. And with practice and time and doing the work it can become a little less so.
Broken open hearts love and live big. There is risk in this. There is vulnerability. There is a chance of being rejected or abandoned. There is heartache and grief.
And there is also so much joy. Happiness. Contentment. Peace.
And mostly, love.
This was originally published on Instagram in June 2020. I have edited it for publication here.
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