Being connected to the flow of our relationships

The natural rhythms of being

Ebb and flow, expansion and contraction, starting and stopping. Life is constant motion, with change happening all around and within us. Our own cells are constantly replacing themselves and the events and experiences of being human are constantly changing the ways we view the world. 

We are meant to be ever-evolving. Not in a striving, spending every moment of our days focused on healing, “bettering” ourselves sort of way, but in an cyclical ever expanding and contracting and being sort of way.

We aren’t meant to see the world in the same ways we did 10, 20, 30 years ago. How could we? Not only have our brains become more developed allowing for perception of more nuance and complexity, but the world itself has changed.

And while we, individually, are ever shifting and morphing so are our relationships. As each person evolves and devolves so does the way we relate to each other. Sometimes these shifts are obvious and dramatic, sometimes they are much slower, more nuanced, imperceptible in the short term but eventually noticeable over time.

When we are able to recognize the natural rhythms of our relationships, the ways they expand and contract in their own ways, at their own pace, we can find much more ease within them. When we are able to see how a relationship has come or is coming to its natural end, these endings can be filled beauty and not just sadness. When we are able to recognize that a relationship is making a natural shift in a direction we didn’t anticipate, we can consciously and intentionally decide to move with that transition (or not).

This does not mean that by being aware of and having the ability to move with the flow of a relationship erases the possibility of conflict, disappointment, frustration, and or grief.  These experiences are parts of all relationships. However, it may mean