Autonomy and agency

Shifting our ways of being in relationship

As we do our work of processing and healing trauma along side unraveling and dislodging our social indoctrination and narratives around relationships and relating (which are traumatic in and of themselves), we begin to feel different in our body. Part of this is our emotions begin to *feel* different too, and therefore our experience of our emotions is different.

This all impacts the ways we are in relationship - with ourselves and others. Our sense of entitlement starts to dissipate (I deserve, I’m owed, they should, etc) while our self agency and accountability grow (acknowledging the other person IS another person, using our words to ask for wants, apologizing when we cause harm, etc). We take responsibility for our lives and our choices, we set boundaries (and defend them), we stop focusing on how others do or don’t (need to) show up and instead focus on ourselves and learn to accept people as they are instead of how we think or wish they would be and make choices about how or if t…